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| Peeperpuppy |
white/gray horsesI think it was in a post from Sarah (sorry if I remembered the wrong name) who spoke of white/gray horses who take on problems. I didn't say that right but hopefully, she'll see this post & come save me from myself... LOLThis has been rolling around in my head all day. I have this little rose gray mare who has been giving me attitude since last fall. In all this time I have been caught between several schools of thought. There are times that the little mare seems to be jealous over me & protective of me, at other times she appears angry, yet again there are other times that she's mad (explanation unknown). When she gets scared you can practically taste her fear. She came to me very angry because she'd been moved from a place she loved. It took a year to bond with her & then it feels as if the bond broke. I know I offended her once... mainly because I didn't understand her motive for charging at another mare & me (didn't know if that temper was coming at me or the other horse). What I do know for a fact is that I have not had a single bout of depression since three days before the mare's little outburst & now it's as if she's cut herself off from me. It's as if she's wary. She's become a puzzle that I'm not sure what to do with/about. I'd put her up for sale yet find myself watching the mare. Tears fall that I can't explain. She has not commited a crime against us, that's not the reason that she's for sale. She does well for others. So I put it up to being mismatched. I've got more questions than answers. Has her time with me passed? Was she to be a teacher who was to be with me for a short time? Is it possible that her job was to take on the thing that very well threatened to end me? That sounds drastic but Dr.'s had me on a medication that introduced me to the world of depression. 2 years after taking 4 stupid pills my world was still upside down. I'd gone out & had a moment with this mare that I can't quite put into words. Shortly thereafter she became what she is now. Sometimes I look at this horse & feel deep rooted guilt that I can't explain. Other times I find tears rolling & I can't explain that either except it feels a little like this mare's living in turmoil. I'll let her go to the right person if it pleases her to go. It makes me miserable that she's unhappy. If anyone has any insight on our situation, I could use the thoughts. Mis & my dog have had me chasing my tail & seeking answers on levels far deeper than I knew I had. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
edited to add: this isn't the best picture of her but it's the only one I had that showed her full face without her jamming it into a bucket. |
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| sarah |
Robin,
What a big thing for your horse to have done for you! She must have been sent to you for a reason. She gave you such a gift. You are right about some creatures being teachers for us. Sometimes they are only here for a short time, whether by their time with us or their time on Earth. Sometimes it is okay to let go of our teachers and know that we have learned what we needed to from them. I'm not sure if that's the case with your horse. Your horse might not know how to "let go" of what she has taken on. Maybe you could help her. You can let go for her. I will post my notes on letting go from the clinic. Anyone can let go. You can let go for others too. You can do it about anything that you're holding on to, even if you're not quite sure what it is. One thing that you might want to let go of is your guilt. It is hard to let it go of, but it's even harder to hold on to. It may not only be your stuff that she's holding on to either. She might be carrying other stuff too. You can help her let go of it all. Be prepared for physical and emotional sensations as the letting go happens. Let it happen, as uncomfortable as it gets. Let it out - it's not doing you any good in there. I'll post my notes in a sec. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
Yeah, the poor filly came here with baggage. What the world sees in her is that she can be disrespectful - when the Queen is in a mood she can be a royal highness for sure!  . But since this happened she just goes around with this ticked off look, squinty eyes. The other 2 mares don't like her much & at some point something happened between them that she decided she wanted to be part of their herd rather than a mood on 4 hooves.
The incident that makes me wonder if she 'took' on my issue was quite unique. I was in a bad place. There was a struggle within me because I knew this feeling of depression & sadness, darkness was not ME. I'm one of the most happy, cheerful people you'll ever meet BUT whatever that medicine did it didn't just go away when the chemicals were supposed to be gone! She left her herd buddy & came to the fence and began shoving on the gate. I went out to her & she kept putting her nose up to my nose or my mouth. At one point I wondered why it felt like she was trying to breathe me in that way. I'm not much of a crier as a rule but I was home alone & I was just plain tired of fighting to get past the dark cloud. I was a mess. I'm not sure how I ended up on the ground or that she was laying with me but there we were. I must've been there an hour or two because it was well past dark. I've never had an experience quite like that. But the next day I felt like a new person. Dark cloud wasn't in sight...shortly thereafter the gray horse was M-A-D. |
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| sarah |
Letting go
Learning to let go… Sit in a chair or lie down. Relax. Let your whole body relax. Let your hands and feet relax. Close your eyes and breathe deeply and slowly. Imagine all of your negative feelings and thoughts going to your hands and dripping out your fingertips. Those thoughts and feelings will drip out of your fingertips and go into the Earth as nutrients to nourish the soil. Let everything go… all of the hate the anger the fear the guilt the worry the disappointment the uncertainty the fact that nobody likes you the sadness… Let it all go. Others may come into your thoughts - you can let go for them too. When you have sat and let go for at least ten minutes, go for a walk. Make it very slow and be as balanced as you can on your feet. As you walk, imagine the last of those thoughts draining out into the soil, where they will nourish the Earth. |
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| bit |
I flashed on Hempflings recognize your horse utubes. check out the skeptic, not to far in. Her head reminds me of another horse he talks about, too.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGgRjYjZmpM I have no words of wisdom for you. Eclipse was a lot like what you are describing. Sarah, I want to read what you have to say about letting go. I bought Eclipse in May, and she's just coming around, now. She was angry, attacked the other horses, very dominate, and wanted nothing to do with me. Now, I can't get her to leave me alone. She was an obediant mount, but I could tell her heart was somewhere else. She has finally fallen in love with this place, her herd, and I think, me. I started her right out with the whr's, but still she was withholding her heart. I think she started coming around when I started her on clicker training. Not the first time, but when I brought Gunner home the first of Feb. That's 10 months? I just kept asking her for her heart, and never gave up. Stood next to her when she'd permit it. Walked with her, everywhere. Read a ton of books with her. She's just now letting me give her a rub. I was beginning to think she would never come around. I had her up for sale, and I was hoping she'd find someone she could like. It sure wasn't me. If Eclipse can come around, I bet this little horse can. Holy crap, I just read what happened with you two. Ok sarah, how do you help this horse? Sounds like she's taken on a world of hurt. Is this really possible? How do you help them? This has me in tears. She sounds wonderful. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
bit,
I've had her since she was a yearling. She will turn 6 years old this coming July. The woman who brought her into my life gave me a free hand to do what I need. I've never been able to bring her completely to a place of peace... then this happened & until I read Sarah's post about gray/white horses it was just a ghost of a thought in the back of my mind that perhaps this horse has taken on something from me. Very few in my life knew how bad things truly had gotten for me. Last week I had a dream with a very large bay horse. This horse is of great significance to me but I don't know why yet. Perhaps if I'm patient long enough the Bay horse comes to teach too but so far I've ridden the horse & I've seen him communicate in a way that says I 'missed' the message but that's it so far. I've had a big white Great Pyranese dog - a big female. And the bay horse (don't know the bay well enough yet to know if it's a mare or stallion). I do a lot of  within myself. And I do a lot of    and a mixture thereof.
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| sarah |
I do not usually do this, but if anyone wants to read my full clinic notes, please email me at whitie6@bigpond.com
It would be easier to give you some real background to what I experienced and learned rather than bits and pieces. And some of your questions might be answered in there. Of course, you are welcome to email Tony Robinson too. I'm not sure how he does the consults - I guess by phone or email - or if or how he charges. He might take a bit of time to get back to you, since he travels the country, but I bet he could help too. Robin, the way the horse looks now, was that you before? What is the horse's name? |
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| sarah |
Robin, she has big heart stuff going on.
Do I have your permission to do an energy work session if she allows it? I've got to go to art class with my kids, but I promise Ill be back later. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
I'm not really sure if she looked like I did before. I'll have to think on that. You have my permission to make contact with her, see if she's open to it. She's funny about people she doesn't know so if she gives you a snotty response let her think on it... then when it's her idea she may welcome you. She really can be funny. |
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| Nashama |
Sarah, I would love to see them. While I have done a seminar with Tony, I am still undecided whether to send Glen to him or to a Reiki Master to learn to tune his extreme sensitivity (and thus protect himself) to the bioelectrical systems of other animals. You have my e-mail. I am leaning towards a Reiki Master for him. | ||
| imagele |
That is probably why you have them. It is just the next stage of your journey. I have had 3 bad reactions to drugs over the years - one almost led to suicide and a few years later they did finally do some studies that "proved" that drug did produce a higher incidence of suicide than normal in teenagers. One caused a massive allergic reaction that I now wear a medialert disc for and one caused my blood pressure and heart rate to go beserk everytime I ate or drank anything (including water) for a couple of months. I am a diabetic - not being able to eat/drink does not do good things for me either. Although .... all the extra work my heart got to do for all that time and not being able to eat more than 3 tablespoons of food per day (and even that was pushing it) for a couple of months did finally kick start a decent amount of weight loss. Prescription drugs do not do good things to my system. I am at the point now where i am going to have to be going to die - tomorrow - before I'll take any other class of prescription drug again, and even then I am a bit doubtful. Each time I went through any of those things I ended up in various alternative therapists rooms getting the effects of them removed and my system put back into some sort of balance. I have had a lot of success doing that - to the extent that my husband who calls all this "witchypoo stuff" for years now tells me "you need to go and get yourself fixed again" in a not very happy tone of voice when I get really out of balance. Other than those times he tells me it is a load of rubbish, he calls my friends who do it witches (and means it in not a nice way) he calls me a witch because I can now do most of what tehy do. BUT he can see/feel the difference after I have a session done on me. He likes the results well enough to verbally and literally shove me out the door for my next session when I really need one. OK back to your horse. This is your Lusitano that you have written about before ? You just wrote that your life is still upside down. She could just be responding to that alone. Some days you may be better than others - on those days she may be able to more easily cope with you. Story # 1 The mare that intiially dragged me kicking and screaming down the alternative path back in 96 (I was an Engineer all this was OK for others but not for me) could not cope at all with being around me when I was badly out of balance. It was only when I got enough of my "out of balance" all sorted out and rearranged my thinking considerably about how to interact with horses that she took the walls down in 2004. When they did come down they came down completely for the next few years - with one exception see below. She died in 2007. Story # 2 I now have a young mare - I still dont really know why i have her. I have been looking at her for the last 7 years wondering what on earth I was thinking when I bought her a lot of the time. She too is really sensitive to my state of being. If I am out of whack she is in my face but really wants nothing to do with me and objects a lot to anything I want her to do. If I am reasonably well balanced she is much happier to have me around and not in my face at all, anything I ask her to do is no trouble. I have only just worked through an emotional issue I caused her just prior to her colt start a couple of years ago that had her put a wall up between us most of the time ever since. I would have spent about 5 - 10 minutes total causing this problem (over 3 sessions). It took me over 2 years to start to find a way to discover WHAT had happened. I knew those 3 incidents were bad for her but I thought we had worked through it all at the time, I changed how I interacted with all of them afterwards. She didn't feel it was sorted through, it hit her at a deep level emotionally but she was not about to tell me that in any way, shape or form. Every time I went looking or had someone else go looking she blocked it. She has also been persistently unsound since just after her colt start - not bad but bad enough that i dont want her doing things for me while she is moving like that. She had just started to come sound again when I changed trims/trimmers and voila - unsound again. So I asked a friend to take a look at her for me a few days ago. My horse knocked my friend flying energetically but she managed to get enough information for me to start to fix it with my mare. My first attempt to sort it through with her was "go away, i'm hungry". The second attempt was not much better, The third attempt at a session with her got to what I "hope" was the problem. The 4th check in was "get lost its over". Her energy has totally changed in the last couple of days. This horse has been after me since she was a 3yo to "get on with it", she turned 8 last Dec. Everytime I start to get on with it though something goes wrong with her. I still dont know what it is I am supposed to ":get on with" but there is something. Maybe this time I can figure it out. Story # 3 About 4 years ago I took my gelding to a clinic. It was supposed to be about communicating deeply with your horse and having both of you heal. The clinician is a close friend of mine but I had been looking at her and her horses for a year or more at that point and tihinking something was really not OK. But her horse was making all this progress physically and she was so excited and happy about all the changes she had discovered that I could not just squash it by telling her what I really thought and I could not really be around her or her horses much either. To me they were screaming most of the time, and she was so pleased. And yes ti was a great improvement on what she had had going on but .... Anyway she had started to teach what she was doing and she was convinced it would help me with one of the issues I had so I eventually took ,my gelding to a clinic. He refused to connect with me for the first couple of days and for the previous few years that had been a relatively easy thing to have him do. I would just wait until he was ready and then he would connect and off we would go to do whatever. I had just done a clinic with Phil and teh connection we had had there was incredible - whole new level - so I was a bit surprised at his absolute refusal to connect for two full days a week later. My friend got really impatient - she wanted my issue "solved" before teh clinic was over and me waiting for my horse was not going to get that done. I decided the second night that I would stop with the cant/wont/dont/yeahbuts and just do what she said. My horse co-operated. It did not solve my issue but I did get some new insights into what I was doing as a result. I took my horse home after the fourth day. For the next 12 months NONE of my horses would connect with me at all, nor would a friends horses who were staying for a few months either. I could connect with horses if I went away from home but the horses anywhere near my gelding wanted nothing to do with me. I could do all sorts of things with my horses still - but there was absolutely NOTHING there in terms of a connection. I had to consciously figure out - without their help which I had never had to do before - what it was I had done to cause all this. Then I had to find a way to make it right with him - again without their help. When I did that the connection with all of them came back. What it was I did to him ? - I stopped letting it be his choice to make an energetic/spiritual connection for the last 2 days of the clinic after having been very careful for the previous few years to allow it to be their choice when they made that connection. I stopped asking and waiting and just said "we are going to connect now" and did it. In effect I forced him to make an energetic connection for 2 days. I will NEVER do that again. One year, 6 horses all refusing to connect with me - that was more than enough punishment for that transgression as far as I am concerned. My first suggestion - find a way to sort yourself out and get some balance back in your life. While you are not right your animals will probably not be right. That is just how it goes with some people IME. My next suggestion - I dont think conventional medicine deals with this area very well and I have had one doctor of mine actually tell me that. You have enough innate "feel" to know who it is you need to go to when you come across them. Dont go to someone who makes you feel really bad when you enter their presence. You probably already know this but I will spell it out anyway - there is a difference between "good pain" and "bad pain" in a physical sense. There is a similar difference between "feeling apprehensive when you meet an alternative practitioner who can help you" and "feeling bad because they will not be able to help you in the way you need and may even do you harm". The first is OK - stay there and go through with it, if you are feeling the second get out of there asap. |
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| bit |
 If you are out of balance, mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually, and a horse is your mirrior, it makes sense that a horse would choose to wall you off if he is in balance. He is protecting himself from being like you, is that right? My daughter is learning this, and it sure cut down the number of friends I had when I decided to only have people in my life that were "real". I'm not saying I'm balanced, at all. I am hoping it's a good sign that I find angy, controlling, abusive people abrasive, and avoid them. That was not always the case. Maybe that's what horses know.
The more I seem to connect with my authentic self, the more my horses are opening up to me and connecting. Hawk is especially sensitive to me being sick, injured, bad moods, stress and such. Wish I had a few witches around here. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
Oh wait, no. I don't mean I'm unbalanced NOW. No no. I was trying to share where I was before this event with her. Now I'm pretty leveled off except for the normal annoying moments in life. Now the main ups & downs in my life involve that little gray mare, my little brown dog & the journey they've put me on trying to help them.
More later... lunch hours over. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
to follow up on what I started at lunch. I'm in a pretty good place now mentally but my back, neck, & other health issues are weird. I don't think of them as a big deal until I try to explain it & it takes a full note book for anyone to jot them down & then I think... hey, I'm doing pretty good for the shape I'm in...
I'm going to go parlay with Mis. |
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| misstux |
For me, my back and health issues are directly related to my mental state. It took me a long time to realize that, as I suppressed the mental issues to the point that I didn't realize that they were there. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
The letting go stuff that Sarah has written about is amazing. I need a little more time to process & I'll share some on what's happening. This is a picture taken of Mis yesterday. Sorry it's blurry but I took it through the window. The first picture & these are all taken from the same location. My master bath windows face the horse pastures where I can observe them without interfering with what they're doing.
We haven't seen this type of expression from her much. I just wanted to share. After I've processed a bit I'll try to put into words what's happened. |
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| sarah |
She looks beautiful, Robin! 
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| baringapark |
I read this and cried! Recently a white horse came into my life. At the time I called him, "healer, teacher, friend." He has changed my life :-) | ||
| Nashama |
I have a paddock of greys and they don't seem to take on any more problems than any other colour. They do seem to be more prone to ending up in abusive situations. | ||
| Peeperpuppy |
My girl had a very rough start in life but this past week has been something really earth-moving for my horse & I - thanks largely in part to this part of the forum & Sarah.
I can't currently sit at a computer long but as soon as I can, I'll be sharing our story. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
Sarah made contact with my girl last week. There are 2 striking things that left me with no doubt she touched on my girl… 1) Mis was apprehensive & how Sarah described it was telling to me & 2) she told Sarah that she doesn’t like her name. She came to me being called one thing & every time I’d try to use the name her ears would flatten… which was fine because I felt the same. I changed her name in how I pronounced it but apparently she prefers Mis which is fine as I call her that anyway.
Sarah, please chime in if I’m leaving out something important. I think the easiest way to describe all of this is I’ve had a lot of junk in the trunk that I’ve never really let go. My mother reminded me that when I was 15 I emotionally suppressed things to the point that I had an enlarged heart (twice it’s normal size). All documented by medical doctors. I visited a Shaman & three days later when they did the next pictures, the heart was back to normal. Not letting things ‘bother me’ doesn’t mean I’ve let it go. Very different. And Sarah shared her notes to help me learn to actually LET GO of this junk. What followed were flashes of memory. Very interesting is the fact that I've had to go to older relatives & ask them about a couple of these things & got the  look. My Grandmother commented that it was like I was there when the event happened however... I wasn't yet born or was just a few months old.
This past Friday, I told Sarah… I was having brain trouble. My thoughts were so muddled. I’d come home from work & didn’t speak to my husband for about an hour other than to tell him I just needed a little quiet down time. It actually hurt to think & my thought process was a mess. I got up & went out to take treats to the horses. For the first time in the 4 years I’ve had Mis, she ate the treats from my hand. I didn’t feel the anger radiating off of her. She didn’t go at my hand or the treats as she normally does with her feed bucket; all that anger wasn't present. I stroked her neck but neither of us were ready for a talk yet. But that contact with Mis cleared my head as if someone had cleaned my mind with glass cleaner. We’re still working things out but as I can tell we’re making progress. I’m still working on this for myself, my dog, & my horse. If you look at the 2 photos, the difference is obvious. In the 2nd photo, you can't see it but the same little mare that aggravates her so is less than a foot from her at the hay bale. Nose to nose. Normally this would cause backed ears, angry temper, frustration & violence. But you see her expression. Last night I had the most beautiful dream. In my mind I was remembering that poem, Footprints. How there were two sets of prints (God & the person in the poem) & how at one point there was only one. But in my dream… there were hoof prints & Robin prints. I could see Mis & I walking along on the beach. In the dream the sky began to darken & it was as if stars were falling in the form of fire-like rain. And then I realized there was only hoof prints in the sand. For a moment I thought, “Oh jeeze, did I die?” And then I heard a voice… “And when the burden became too much… she carried you”. On the next frame of what I saw… Mis & I looked like we’d fought a war. I was riding her, half laying on her. It was bloody & brutal. Because this is the way of things with me no doubt when Mis & I make it to the other side of this… I’ll see the rest of the dream. I'm hoping we look better on the other side of this letting go process... haha... because we were scary looking. We’re a work in progress but it’s been an amazing start. I’m still figuring things out. It’s been a little shocking to ME to discover things that I thought I’d put down… really didn’t go, it just seemed to get filed away. Apparently my file cabinet was full & spilling over. I’ve got a dog that this has affected to the point that she was near death… & poor Mis has been miserable. Everything happens for a reason. |
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| sarah |
Hi everyone.
Robin, I'm so glad to see you here sharing with us. I know it's not easy. Your dream says so much - about your journey already, and how you and Mis are partners now. She is a special horse. She was sent to you for a reason. I think Robin is very brave to share her story with all of us. We all need to remember and be aware that in this part of the forum we may encounter times when people just can't share, maybe just while they process what is happening, or maybe not at all. There might be gaps where it seems like nothing is happening. We can get into intensely personal stuff here and to lay it bare on a public forum can be tricky. Robin has pretty much outlined what happened with Mis. I worked on her on Friday night, Australian time, and it was very interesting. Here is what I sent to Robin last Saturday morning. It seems like it's pretty vague - even I wondered if it was real. Before I went to sleep last night, I did a little bit of energy work on Mis. It was erratic and patchy. She wasn’t sure about it and was happy to leave it, but seemed drawn to it too and kept coming back to it. I got dull pain in my right hand and forearm, my right thumb was moving a lot, there was fear and confusion and anxiety. My gums throbbed a lot – anger. My heart pounded – heart stuff. My ears felt really full – heart stuff. I had pain around my liver briefly too - anger again. I felt that she wants to know why you are “getting rid” of her. Perhaps you could explain to her why. I felt that she cut herself off, in addition to what happened, so that it makes it easier to separate when the time comes. I wasn’t sure where to go to begin helping her, so I just sent “ribbons” of energy to her whole body, like on a breeze. I surrounded her with pink light that she could have if she wanted and her anger seemed to subside a bit. She seemed calmer. I also did a bit of letting go, but it is something that will be an ongoing thing for her – there are many, many layers of “stuff” to let go of. I’m not sure that she likes her name but nothing came to me about what she’d prefer. She’s happier with Mis than her full name, but I got the feeling there might be another one. Perhaps you could ask her. Don’t be surprised if you get an answer – maybe even one that you would like to ignore – I have had to change so many of my horses’ names that I barely have my old herd anymore. I do not believe that she is staying away from you because she doesn’t like you. I believe she’s staying away from you to protect you... from what she took away from you. I also get a feeling, from looking at her picture, about her head, but I’m not sure where that comes from or what it’s about. I will keep remembering stuff for the next little while, so if something significant comes to me, I’ll let you know. So much... so many tiny flickers of emotion and thought... comes in a session that it is impossible to remember it all. Robin sent me two emails on Saturday, my time. What Robin wrote back to me about how Mis was made me think I was really on the right track. Some of it is below... Well I've no doubt you reached her... and... You've got my attention alright! I went to see her straight away. Different horse. The crabby face & slitty eyes were gone. I said to myself that I was looking for carrots & if she was interested she could come to the buckets. Then I couldn't find any carrots so I got hay cubes. I went out & she showed her fanny to me. So okay I offered & her ears came forward & she had a soft expression. she didn't nicker to me. But she was interested. Hoooray! ... I held out goodies just for Mis. I've never had her take food out of my hand. She's always slamming her nose into her bucket like she's punishing it. Wouldnt' (let?) my hand there. But today she took the pieces from my hand as nice as you please & really took her time savoring them. ... I told her how pretty she was. How nice I liked her eyes today & her ears seemed friendly. They were back but no pinning her ears. No mean slitty eyes. I thought to myself (& her) "boy, wouldn't it be nice if we had more days like this together" & she offered her neck. I also gotta tell you... at the time I thought it, I didn't make the connection, until I was writing back to you. I had this thought that she sure did look pretty in pink! There was softness & she seemed different. For me, this has been a fascinating and wonderful thing. I am so honoured that Robin and Mis trusted me. |
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| Peeperpuppy |
I thought I'd share the latest with Mis - my little gray wonder horse!
My husband made an appointment to take Mis the to trainer. Mis wasn't ready. I was freaked out because I was in the middle. Husband afraid the mare would hurt me if she didn't get some training. Mis not ready to come out of her safe haven. Me not sure what to do to make this right for the three of us. So the first thing I did on the night before she was supposed to go to the trainers... I took my case to my horse. I went out there & was greeted with soft eyes & her normal demand for grain. I fed her & while she munched I talked to her. I told her my husband promised me that if she threw a fit or didn't want to go onto the trailer, he wouldn't try to make her. He'd put her back in the coral. So the next day if she really didn't want to go... then we'd accept it. Basically I told her that all the choices & decisions were hers. If she wanted to stay & be my horse then it was important for her to be brave. Whether she went to training the next day or next month, I'd like for her to take her lessons to be a riding horse. It'd be up to her to show the trainer that she can be the safe horse that I need her to be. The trainer would convince my husband. And Mis & I could be partners. I also told her that if she was ready to move on to another owner, I'd accept it & support her into a new home. But everything was up to her. She munched, she snuffled my hair. She ate some more. I told her how beautiful she was & how much I enjoyed seeing her look happy. I explained what would happen. From the trailer loading to breakfast my husband would have with his best friend and then on to the trainer's house & unloading. My husband was hooking up the horse trailer & she started nickering & had this, "let me at it" attitude that made me smile. My parting words to her was, "It's all you, Mis. All of this is up to you." The next day she haltered & loaded with no effort from my husband. She was a little nervous in the trailer alone. She pawed up a storm in impatience while the boys had breakfast. She unloaded at the trainer's house with no big fuss. My husband reported she seemed curious, eager, & had a good attitude. She was even tied at the hitch rail to get her feet trimmed & was very positive about the whole thing. I felt all of this except I couldn't see why she was nervous or why she was suddenly not sure what she'd gotten herself into. So i was relieved that she made it with no hoopla & that she'd made the choice... not my choice, not my husband's but Mis chose to go to school. Today my husband went to see her while I was at work. The trainer was all smiles. He said she certainly wasn't the easiest horse he'd ever saddle trained but she certainly was by far not the worst. He said she doesn't have an ounce of buck in her. ((And get this part)) Our trusted trainer says, "I'd like for your wife to really consider selling her other horse. I'm afraid she's just too much for her." My husband had to clean his ears out & have Sam try that again. Sam nodded. He said if I were working cattle with my other mare or doing performance stuff that my QH would be fine but he feels she's just not as safe a prospect for someone with my physical limitations as Mis is.
It's not that my other horse is bad its just that she's more of a firecracker than Mis is. I asked my husband, "Are you surprised?" He admited that he was totally stunned & then said, "You've done something." (That's husband-talk for "you've done some of that stuff I don't understand"). I said I just talked to her. The trainer wants me to come out when we pick Mis up & he wants to show my the difference & why be believes Mis is the safer mount for me. He's already conditioning her to gunfire & said it's really amazing how much try she has in her. What's happened here has been a life altering experience to me. I was sitting at my desk when my husband called to tell me the news of Mis, the horse he thought was a little crazy, too high strung. SHE's the safe mount for me. Plain as day I got, "See. Told you I don't like her." Mystery solved. I recokeon Mis went after my QH mare last fall for a reason. Sarah... thank you so very much for making a difference & taking the time to teach us. We've got miles of work ahead but it's certainly all in a different light now! And what a difference it makes when it's the horse's idea! |
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| bit |
Thank you for sharing all this. It's so big, and so amazing. I cried, I laughed, I ran out and hugged 4 very confused, but pleased horses. I'm sure they thought, "the human has been watching horse movies again." How about a picture of you and Mis? Sarah, thank you for sharing. It warms my heart. | ||
| HopeMissouri |
Fascinating! Thank you so much for sharing. | ||
| Sunny |
This was wonderful! Thank you so much for sharing. (((hugs)))
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| Peeperpuppy |
I tell ya, I'm just so glad I have some place to talk about this stuff.
I feel like I'm in an educational whirl wind! This has been an amazing & humbling time for me. That she chose these things when she was given a chance, when she knew we would not force our will upon her... that is just amazing to me. My husband is still stunned that this doesn't even seem to be the same horse. She doesn't look or act the same. No longer angry, no longer frustrated & 'crazy'. He's just puzzled & bewildered. He fully expected to go there & have Sam tell him, "Don't even think about putting your wife on this mare". What he got was, "THIS is the mare for her... not the other one. Please talk her into it." This makes me laugh because Sam's worried for me. My husband's been worried about me. Mis has been trying to protect me. And I've been too ignorant to see it & JUST about blew it. As for Mis & I... I think we're pretty tickled!
As soon as she gets home I'll get pics & post them. |
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| sarah |
I rarely offer to do stuff with horses I don't know, but there was something about Mis that just got me in. She sent big physical stuff that I couldn't ignore.
Mis showed me things that helped her and Robin, but she helped me too - she showed me that I could trust what I saw, felt and heard. Robin, it is so great to read again of how well you and Mis are doing, individually and together. I smiled and smiled as I read your latest posts. As I have said before, I am so grateful and very honoured that both Robin and Mis trusted me to be a part of this amazing chapter in their lives. Thank you so much. I am very much looking forward to the photos when they come! |