It's About The Horse

thelmanelle · Member Joined: 20 Sep 2009 Posts: 3253

She is home and in the pasture. I have a dressage arena here with lights for the winter. She is getting along with the four geldings and other mare. They just got their hooves done yesterday and vetted today.

So, I plan not to burn a bridge, but to go and explain finances are tight and I need to move her home. Get my things and remain friends.

One friend wanted to take a second horse out there for training...they just told her the REAL price. So she back down. Also, if they up her price on the one she has out there, she is taking him home.

We did talk about the one she has at her house and my arena. Perhaps, we can ride here. Still go to shows and enjoy.

All is not lost.

But, if you realize you are being taken advantage of...you lose the joy of it. So it's time to get back to the joy of it.

Summer is home.
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PasoBaby_CarolU · Site Admin Joined: 31 Jan 2009 Posts: 9038

I am sure she'll benefit by the additional attention she'll get at home.

You could check around, maybe host a dressage clinic at your house once a week and get your lesson free, for the 'cost' of using your arena. Just an idea. We bring Christie in from Idaho for a weekend once a month. One person has an arena and Christie stays at her house. We all chip in for gas and food. It keeps the lesson price reasonable.
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carefreegirl · Member Joined: 01 Feb 2009 Posts: 822

thelmanelle · Member Joined: 20 Sep 2009 Posts: 3253

Just got back from bringing Summer stuff home and leaving on good terms.
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Chablis · Posted: Tue Aug 24, 2010 11:39 pm Post subject:

misstux · Member Joined: 27 Feb 2009 Posts: 948

I am trying really really hard to leave my barn on good terms. It's very hard, especially as I have paid $700 for my last month's training after giving notice and have received zero training so far. I didn't want to lose the $700 deposit for leaving without notice.... There are so many things wrong. I want to say congratulations on a difficult job well done.

thelmanelle · Member Joined: 20 Sep 2009 Posts: 3253

It was hard. Several reasons, but doing it being polite was best for me.

Back in July,we had a clinic and I was asked to get 14 gifts donated from my feed store to put in a bag that they had for the clinic attendees. The owner said that the barn never did business with them, but he'd see what he could do. I dislike asking for things.

So the day before the clinic, he called and I came and he gave me 14 bags with 5 items in each bag. Each bag had, a wormer, fly spray, curry comb, hoof pick and vet wrap as a gift. I was shocked. That was a lot.

I took them to the barn. During the clinic, the barn never gave us the new bag I was told about and they took the wormers out of each of the 14 bags to keep for their own use. They gave credit to themselves for getting the items.

That did not sit well with me.

Then, I realized the pricing difference.

Later, I began to see that I was doing all the things for my horse and paying and she was not being ridden by the trainer.

My friend said trainers do not ride horses that do not show at training barns. But if you pay, they should.

Another boarder was buying her own hay and they took it to feed their horses.

So it was best to leave and not let a flood gate of accusations fly out. It would have only made me more angry.

Now, I can just have my horses at home. Cut my losses and learn not to go there again.

My friend is stuff presently, but she will eventually realize after my ordeal and all the dishonesty that she will have to bring her daughter's horse home, too.

Then, we can start again. Fresh slate...new trainer, but our dressage arena.

Sometimes, it is best to cut your losses. I still had till Sept. 9 ob boarding and through the end of the month on training. But, if they are not doing any thing but feeding, turning her out? I can do that at home and ride her here once the herd settles with her.
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A Good Apple Pie. II Corinthians 4:16-18